When people first sit in my office, they rarely arrive because they want a divorce. They arrive because they're exhausted. Months, sometimes years, of walking on eggshells. Conversations that never seem to go anywhere. Arguments that repeat themselves like an old movie. The silence between two peopl...

One of the most common questions I hear from clients is: "Why do I keep attracting the same type of person?" It might be the partner who is emotionally unavailable. The one who always needs rescuing. The controlling partner. The avoider. The perpetual critic. Or perhaps the relationship begins with ...

Recent reporting has highlighted what many of us working in family dispute resolution and counselling witness every single day, the family law system is under enormous pressure. Costs continue to rise, legal aid resources are stretched beyond capacity, and more Australians are finding themselves nav...

In recent months, I’ve noticed a distinct shift in my work with separating families. More and more, I am sitting with parents who, understandably navigating their own pain, frustration, and uncertainty, are unintentionally losing sight of the very person we are all there to protect: the child. In ...

A child refuses to see a parent. On paper, it may present as resistance.In affidavits, it can quickly become allegation.In court, it often hardens into position. Yet in practice, particularly within high-conflict family systems, that “no” is rarely a fixed stance. It is a signal. And how that si...

There are moments in this work that stay with me, not because they are dramatic or complex, but because they quietly reaffirm why the way we work matters just as much as what we do. Recently, I worked with a client who, like many, had already spent time in therapy. She came with insight, intelligenc...

A more considered way to move through conflict, complexity, and change There is a quiet misconception that calm is something we arrive at once life settles, when the conflict resolves, the conversation softens, or the external world finally aligns in our favour. It is often imagined as the reward at...

A different way through separation. If you’re reading this, chances are your life doesn’t look the way you expected it to right now. You might be lying awake at night wondering how everything became so hard.You might be exhausted from constant tension, conflict, or walking on eggshells.You might...

Separation is one of those moments in life where everything feels like it’s shifting at once, the ground you stand on, the way you communicate, the way you parent, the way you make decisions. It’s an emotional, psychological, and sometimes spiritual unravelling of a life you once built together....

Project-Managing the End of a Relationship the Smart Way When Emma and Jack came to see me, they were on the edge, two good people drowning in years of frustration and silence. They weren’t at war, but they were lost. Their children , Holly (9) and Ben (13), were watching closely, absorbing every ...