So often in session, I am asked what the true meaning of life is and for some, it is what lies ahead and for others, it is all about what lies within.
Is there a right or wrong way? No - it is what is right for you...
My late father in law was an amazing man - he was blessed with that quiet worldly approach to life that gave him a lifetime of contentment and happiness and the emotional agility to deal with whatever came his way that was challenging. I asked him some years back, what were some of the lessons he felt carved out his approaches and impacted his experiences.
Something for us all to consider:
- After loving parents, siblings, partners, children and friends, start loving myself
- Understand that you are not the “Atlas”. The world does not rest on your shoulders
- Stop bargaining with vegetable & fruit vendors. A few cents here and there is not going to break the bank, but it might help the fellow save for his daughter’s school fees
- Leave the waitress a big tip. The extra money might bring a smile to her face. She is working hard for a living that I no longer have so much a need for
- Stop telling the elderly that they've already told that story many times. The story makes them walk down memory lane & relive their past
- Learn not to correct people even when you may know they are wrong. The onus of making everyone perfect is not on you. Peace and respect for anothers opinion is more precious than perfection
- Random acts of kindness - give compliments freely & generously. Compliments are a mood enhancer not only for the recipient, but also for you. And a small tip for the recipient of a compliment, never, NEVER turn it down, just say "Thank You”
- Don't bother about a crease or a spot on your dress or shirt. Personality speaks louder than appearances
- Walk away from people who don't value you. They might not know your worth, but you do
- Remain cool when someone plays dirty to outrun you in the rat race. You are not a rat & neither are you in any race
- Embrace your emotions, don't be embarrassed by them. That is what makes you human
- It's better to drop the ego than to break a relationship. An ego will keep you aloof, whereas with relationships, you will never be alone
- Live each day as if it's the last. Be present and in the moment
- Do what makes you happy. Only you are responsible for your happiness. Happiness is a choice. You can be happy at any time, just choose to be! Why do we have to wait to be 60 or 70 or 80, why can't we practice this at any stage and age?
Own you - it will be the best investment you will ever make.
