On this World Mental Health Day, let's take a moment to reflect on what mental health truly means to each of us. It’s a term we hear often, but have you ever stopped to ask yourself, "What does mental health look like for me?" Is it a static, unchanging state of mind, or is it something that ebbs and flows depending on life's circumstances? The answer is different for everyone, and that’s what makes mental health such a personal and intricate journey.
For some, mental health might seem like a destination, a place you arrive at where everything is balanced, and you're permanently "well." But for many others, mental health is far from static—it’s situational, fluctuating with life's challenges, stressors, and even moments of joy. Mental health isn’t just about feeling happy or content all the time; it’s about learning to navigate the full spectrum of emotions and experiences life throws at you.
Think about a time when you were going through a difficult phase. Maybe you lost a job, went through a breakup, or experienced the passing of a loved one. During that period, you might have felt overwhelmed, anxious, or even depressed. But was that your permanent state of being? Likely not. Over time, with support, self-reflection, and patience, many of us find ways to manage these feelings.
Mental health is, in many ways, situational. You can have mental health challenges at one point in your life and then emerge from that period with a renewed sense of self. There is light at the end of the tunnel, even when it feels impossible to see. And this is something that gives hope to anyone struggling today—you’re not locked into this state forever. Things can and do get better.
Take, for example, a couple—let’s call them Sarah and David. They experienced a devastating loss when their young child passed away suddenly. As you can imagine, they were plunged into a world of pain, grief, and heartbreak that few can fully comprehend unless they’ve been through it themselves. At first, their lives seemed to shatter into pieces. They couldn’t focus at work, their home felt empty, and even the smallest interactions between them became strained and fraught with unspoken sadness.
Their grief manifested in different ways. Sarah found herself withdrawing, unable to get out of bed some days, feeling weighed down by the immense sorrow and self-blame. David, on the other hand, buried himself in work, trying to avoid the pain and pretending everything was "fine." Their coping mechanisms clashed, and soon, they found themselves arguing over things that didn’t really matter—what to eat for dinner, whether to answer the phone when a friend called—when what they were really fighting was the overwhelming pain of their loss.
Over time, they sought therapy, both individually and together, realising that they couldn’t go through this alone. Therapy allowed them to express their grief, anger, and confusion in a safe space. They learnt that their emotions were valid and part of the healing process. There was no “right” or “wrong” way to grieve. They began to talk openly about their child, their feelings of guilt, and their fear that they would never feel happiness again. Slowly but surely, they started to reconnect. Their grief didn’t vanish—it became part of their story, something that would always be with them. But they learnt how to carry it together, rather than letting it tear them apart.
Through time, compassion for themselves and each other, and with the right support, Sarah and David found their way back to a place of emotional stability. Their mental health was not “fixed,” but they gained tools to navigate their sadness and begin to find moments of peace and even joy again. Their experience reshaped them, but it also taught them about resilience, the power of connection, and the importance of mental health care.
If you’ve ever experienced something like Sarah and David’s story, you know how deep and complex the journey of mental health can be. And if you haven’t, perhaps you know someone who has. On this World Mental Health Day, it’s important to remind ourselves and each other that mental health is not always visible. You may see someone who appears fine on the outside but is silently struggling with immense pain on the inside. Perhaps they aren’t smiling as much as they used to, or they seem more distant. It’s easy to assume that someone is just in a bad mood, but more often than not, there’s something else going on beneath the surface.
Let’s be kind and tolerant, especially on days when people don’t seem like their usual selves. Mental health is not always about putting on a brave face—it’s about recognising that we all have ups and downs. It’s about giving space for those downs, and supporting each other in rising back up.
So, what can you do if you find yourself or someone you care about in a difficult mental health space? First, acknowledge that it’s okay not to be okay. Life is unpredictable, and emotions can sometimes feel overwhelming. But know this: tomorrow can be a better day.
Reach out for support, whether that’s through friends, family, or a mental health professional. It’s important to remember that seeking help is not a sign of weakness—it’s a sign of strength. Healing takes time, and every small step forward is progress. Even in moments when you feel stuck, know that change is possible.
Let today be a reminder that mental health is not static, that there is hope even in the darkest times, and that kindness and understanding go a long way. You never know what someone might be going through, so let’s be gentle with one another. And most importantly, let’s be gentle with ourselves.
Tomorrow holds the promise of light, even if it feels far away today.